look at those white women, they might be not as young as before, they might be exhausted being a mom of kids, they might be even single moms, but they still looks attractive, why we asian/chinese ladies can not be like that? not because we are different from them, but the basic attitude.
I guess if you make yourself happy, you are happy.
Of course, if you feel love you will be happy intuitively.
Even that you are waiting for something to happen makes you happy too.
That is what I am thinking.